My list of mentors and teachers is so long that I could write a book solely about them (and maybe I will!). Through them and my own rigorous spiritual work, I also opened up to having profound friendships with women again.
One of those women is named Betsy Cohen. Betsy's own hero's journey is fascinating! She went from social worker to Brooklyn's first famous hipster psychic (yep, you read that right). She has learned to embrace her intuitive power and she lives from that place everyday. When I met her last year, I had no idea that she would become one of my closest friends and an integral part of my own journey. She listened intently as we sat on my living room floor and I shared the story about my separation from my friends. She witnessed me as I cried for my younger self (I had never let myself do that before). She was an essential part of my healing, helping me to open up and trust myself. Betsy propelled me toward embracing my sensitivity and my own intuition as Superpowers.
I'm gonna get feminist on you for a minute: I firmly believe that part of the reason why being sensitive and intuitive are not widely embraced is because they are thought of as feminine. These traits are mysterious and illogical and that frightens people. When Betsy told me she was a "psychic", the word was jarring. Society associates this with something dark or impossible, and I am a product of society. If we go back far enough in history, we know that women have been persecuted for thousands of years for their emotional life, their intuition and their psychic minds (and some men, too!). The Ordinary World places emphasis and importance on logic and reason and linear thinking rather than circular concepts of time and place. We are taught to fear what we do not understand, thus, the emotional life of women is greatly feared. Women and men fear this in others as well as in themselves, which might be the greatest tragedy.
Despite all of the fear, many of us have a grandmother, an Aunt, a church Mother, someone we know who tells us she had a dream about us and we listen to her. Why? No matter how we deny it, all of us know we have a connection to something bigger that might not make sense, but it isn't any less real.
All of us have this connection. Women and men. Our emotional and intuitive intelligences are just waiting for us to tap in. They are waiting for us to answer our call to adventure.