Learning to be vulnerable again (or perhaps for the first time) is a delicate place to navigate because we’ve subconsciously armored up in attempt to protect our heart from possible pain. The first thing to understand is that being vulnerable does not mean giving away our heart or our love to just anyone. Vulnerability is about speaking our truth unabashedly. It’s about sharing who we are through open, honest and authentic communication. We don’t have to give anything (our heart) to anyone until we are good and ready. However, we must be at least willing to try something new or we will perpetuate the same disconnected relationships of past.
When we are willing to share our inner selves, we can then see how others respond to us. In this we can determine whether it is “safe” to proceed further with this person thus, opening our hearts a little at a time. If an armored person rushes in to quickly and for some reason doesn’t receive a response that feels safe, the armored person may subconsciously armor up even further. Take your time.
Additionally, it’s important to recognize and understand that vulnerability begets vulnerability. Magic and miracles happen when one person let’s their guard down and shares authentically. With this, the other person will also feel safe to do the same. This is how true connection is born within our relationships. Most everyone is scared to death to navigate a new relationship. At some point in life, we’ve all been hurt. When we are willing to state our fear, most likely we will discover our person is equally afraid. By uncovering this vital fact, you may find you both helping one another along!
As with anything in life, it is of utmost importance to trust your intuition while learning to navigate vulnerability. At all times, we are being guided by a Universal Intelligence that will indeed send you warning signs if someone’s motives are not of the highest nature. However, we must learn to discern between our own fear and the warning voice of Spirit. If it’s a red light you are receiving, be willing to say your farewell and move on. If it’s a green light you are receiving (a peaceful knowing that all is well), you must find the courage within to step boldly into your authentic self and allow for the graceful unfolding.
Kristen Brown, Certified Empowerment Coach/Mentor – www.sweetempowerment.com