Rewrite Your Story: Find Your Purpose & Start Living It
I love this article by Shannon Kaiser about fear. The biggest fear my clients and I have struggled with is the
**FEAR OF FOCUSING ON ONE THING.**
Just one single thing.
We're afraid of what we'll miss out on if we only focus on one thing.
But what that's really about is you're focusing so much on what won't work out that you can't imagine things working out in way that would change the fabric of our lives. We're afraid that we might actually be as great as our soul is telling us we are. We're afraid that things might actually work out and we'd have everything we've always dreamed of and more.
But here's the clincher: if we can't imagine things working out in our favor, then we'll never have any of the things we wish for.
And if we never focus on the one thing we want the most, we'll never have it. Remember the story of how Nate Parker stopped auditioning for other peoples films for 2 years so he could make "Birth of a Nation" which sold at Sundance for an unprecedented $17.5 million dollars? Well, a friend of mine correcting me and told me that in actuality, he stopped auditioning for 7 years to finish his film. That meant he turned down acting work for 7 years.
Can you imagine how terrifying that must have been for him and his family?
To turn down paying work for a pipe dream.
Well, guess what, he would have been chaser meager parts written for young black actors for 7 years, to create a film that not only made him the millions of dollars, but that also put him in the running for an Oscar in the writer/actor/director categories and his film will be making him and his family money for the next 500 years on cable, streaming, network tv plus box office sales when it opens worldwide.
He focused on the dream: he wanted to act, write, direct Oscar-worthy films and support his family. He gave up the small jobs to get the dream job. It worked.
What are you afraid of?
What crumbs are you settling for because you need to pay rent or your mortgage?
Are you ready to scrap by and scramble for the rest of your life instead of going after your dream?
If the answer is yes, take a look at Shannon Kaiser's article about fear:
3 Fears Keeping You Stuck & How to Beat 'em
By Shannon Kaiser
I’ve spent the majority of my life afraid of rejection. I spent years trying to be what other people wanted and I landed at rock bottom I didn’t recognize myself, and fell into deep depression, drug addiction, eating disorders, and self sabotage. When I turned 27, I found myself crying desperately, shaking alone on a cold bathroom floor, and I realized I couldn’t live that way anymore.
Fear and worry cast a shadow over our actions, defeating us before we even start.
For the first time, rather than asking what the world wanted of me, I asked myself what I wanted. Who I wanted to be.
I left my corporate job in advertising to become a writer. I spent five years traveling, visiting meditation retreats, meeting gurus, all in the pursuit of happiness. What I learned is that happiness is not a pursuit but a practice.
Like yoga or healthy eating or quality time with family, happiness is an endeavor that requires consistent attention. By showing up to your happiness practice, you're choosing yourself. You're saying you matter.
It was only through self-reflection that I recognized fear as the source of my depression. Then, I was I able to work through it and heal the root cause. Rather than spend your life guided by fear, recognize yours, face it, and free yourself to live a more fulfilling, authentic life. Here are some of the most common, most destructive fears we face, a description of the root cause, and a mantra to help you overcome them.
Fear of Failure
Many people who are afraid of failure are achievement junkies who lack confidence. They try to prove their worth through their achievements. At one point in their lives, most people who fear failure felt alienated or left out and turned to productive means of achieving and winning to prove their worth.
**Fear fix: Instead of focusing on the outcome you want to avoid, turn your attention to what you do want. Focus fully on the positive aspects of your life. You don’t have to work so hard to prove anything to anyone, because you belong in the world just as you are. Give yourself permission to be you and celebrate the good things in your life.**
Mantra: "I am enough as I am, there is nothing to prove."
Fear of the unknown
A person who fears the unknown will stay in a job they hate, a relationship that has expired, or other situations that do not serve them because the unknown is terrifying. Security and protection will always trump happiness. If we peel back the layers of the person who fears the unknown, we will see uncertainty and lack of control.
**Fear Fix: Recognize that all setbacks in life are miracles in disguise. Things that feel like problems or barriers are really pathways to revelation. Trust that your future self is guiding you to a better situation.**
Mantra: “I am willing to live my life in new ways, I am open to my personal growth and expansion."
Fear of Change
People who fear change will focus their attention on the past instead of being in the present or planning for the future, causing them to miss out on countless opportunities. The person who fears change is really suffering from a lack of trust in the universe. They fear they won’t be supported through the transition.
**Fear fix: Act on create the outcome you desire. This will empower you and help build confidence through the transition.**
Mantra: “I am surrounded by support and love. All of my needs are met now and always."
WHAT: Rewrite Your Story: Find Your Purpose & Start Living It webinar
WHEN: Saturday, February 13th 3pm-5pm
HOW: Via phonecall or you can listen to the recording of the class
COST: $29.99 PLUS A 100% MONEYBACK GUARANTEE, NO QUESTIONS ASKED
BONUSES: Rewrite Your Story handbook with timeline and strategy exercises, private 1:1 coaching session with April
Email us at AprilYvetteThompsonCoaching@gmail.com
Here's what you'll learn & how this class will change your life.
1. What's your purpose?
2. What's important to you?
3. What do you want to do?
4. How are you going to find the time & money to do it?
5. What's your 5 year plan? 1 year plan? 6 month plan?
7. How do I set up goals that I can actually accomplish?
8. How do I remove things that are wasting my time to make more time for things that are in line with my purpose?
9. How can I get the life I'm living to look like the life I'm dreaming about
10. How much is my time worth?
11. How much money do I need to make to make my dreams come true?
12. How am I going to get this money?
For example, what if your dream is to quit your day job and work for yourself.
What do you need to cushion you?
Cost of living expenses for a year while you work on your business making a profit? Why not create a business plan and life plan that included salary and cost of living before you even embark on this journey.
What if your dream is to work in Film but you don't have an agent or TV credits and no money or time because you have a day job? What's the most direct route to working in film?
Moving to a L.A. or Atlanta without an agent/manager and hoping you'll meet folks who will give you auditions because there are more projects in those cities?
Right, look at all those projects being made in those cities. Where do the actors being cast come from? They audition in NYC because they have agents and managers.
The fastest route is to make your own short film or feature?
What's standing in your way?
Money, time, no connections?
What do you need to make those things happen?
Well, you can do what so many artists do, just jump in and start making the art half-assed without a budget, an infrastructure or training upfront so that you get halfway through and have to drop it because you have to quit and get a day job so you can eat.
What am I thinking?
I'm thinking. Gee, what a brillant way to get in your own way and claim you did all you could do and still failed, so you could be right that never nothing was ever going to work out anyway. Which in actuality, is the farthest thing from the truth.
You didn't fail, you rushed in because you figured if you did something fast and dirty, you could still fear success and no one would notice.
That just makes you human. That just makes you a brillant, scared genius.
We all are.
We're scared of looking stupid, we're scared of failure, we're scared we might actually be successful because that comes with a whole shitload of responsibilities we just don't want to really think about.
But let's entertain this:
What if you learned how to raise money for the life you wanted to live?
What if you learned how to set up a budget that funded your costs of living, things that support the life you want to be living like , a support team, a coach to help you set up business structure and raise money upfront before you even started entertaining the idea of making a film or writing a book or starting your own business.
What if you could build your own dream endowment?
A company that would pay for all the things you need in your life to support you and free up your time to create something new and beautiful in your life that is actually the dream you want to be living?
Well, that's what this class: Rewrite Your Story is all about.