Either we invest each moment with ego, or we let go. Out of fear, we vainly seek impossible surety in an ever-changing universe; or, out of faith, we respond to our calling, assured of success because we connect to a higher being.
When we're full of ego, we hear only what we want to hear, which frustrates everyone in our lives--including ourselves. This self-induced deafness to others blocks our own greater selves.
Imagine being stuck at any childhood age and refusing to grow up. Playing make-believe at four is cute; at forty it's a problem. Unfortunately we have to struggle to progress beyond our programming. Like animals instinctually returning to their birthplace, we often instinctually repeat ancestral errors--the family curse passed through generations.
Of course, as humans we can reprogram ourselves and fulfill our potential. But early attachment patterns impact how we assimilate new information. It's not enough to seek the teachings of professionals; we have to be able to follow their directions.
How often do we seek advice and then refuse to follow it? Understand: Most of our problems touch our process, not our position. When we become stuck--in consciousness, then life--it's because of an immature or obsolete psychological process.
The very act of seeking help outside that system is our first healing step. And when we seek direction, unless it conflicts with our deepest values we must somehow integrate it.
Healing comes not from the brilliance of the advice, but from our courageous will to follow where it may lead.
Unless we change direction, we end up right where we are, because the thinking that created conflict cannot solve it unaided. We need a Higher Power--in this case, taking direction from someone who has heard, and healed, similar issues.
- Alexandra Katehakis, Mirror of Intimacy