The Hindu godess, Kali, The Destroyer Has Extra Limbs. She is forcing you to cut off the damaged ones and have the courage to grow stronger, more beautiful limbs
The strength of your convictions is critical when you're committed to becoming better than you were. When you have decided without reservation to grow, identify, remove and address your bullshit and not repeat it; It's incredibly powerful and often a very lonely process.
If you feel the loneliness, know you're on the right track. When you finally decide to change your life, face your wounds head-on like a truly brave man or woman, that's akin to facing a minefield that you must walk through with enemy snipers at your back.
Every step could mean you lose a limb, but the difference between the mind field in warfare and the mindfield of your path to healing is that, when you heal, you destroy those limbs that are damaged so you can grow new ones.
I was recently told that
"Yep, you're Kali the Destroyer and you don't care whose feelings you hurt when you destroy. "
I destroy systems,
that people use to constrict me or make me wrong.
The good news is that in the process, whatever constriction I'm working to dismantle is often the same one that the critic needs to deal with...hence they have to make me wrong so as not to deal with their own stuff...
Each person's role on this planet is to live a better, more fearless life in line with your dreams and your purpose on this earth. Part of manifesting that life is learning how to set clear, loving boundaries about what you will and will not accept. The result is you begin modeling the behavior that you want to receive and that's the deepest and most profound way to teach those around you the ways in which they are getting in their own way.
So, if I hurt your feelings by being clear about how you;re hurting me, sounds like you're hiding behind your hurt instead of fixing the behavior. What usually follows is a mononolgue in which I hear the litany of ways I've hurt people's feelings by calling out their wounded behavior that's been imposed upon me.
I've triggered their fear of change. That trigger is designed to destroy fear-driven behavior that no longer serves me, you or anyone else on the planet. See how that works? If you do your work, the planet becomes a better place. Less preaching, more doing and living the best life by example.
When folks tell resent healthy boudary setting, they usually accuse you of not caring about them and being harsh or too sensitive. When you are speaking your truth in the moment about how you feel and folks find a reason to make you wrong; know that these people are not ready to confront their toxic refusal to grow, so they hide behind being hurt. Which of course, means they have to make me or you into the asshole for setting healthy boundaries,.
Setting healthy boundaries that grow your self-worth is an act of destruction. It's an act where you acknowledge that things that no longer serve you, your relationships, your life and your highter purpose need to be eliminated. This destruction is like an oxygen mask. You need it to breathe in goodness and the life you were put here to live out.
So, know: You can set the boundary, hold their fear as long as you are living fully in your purpose.
I can hold the criticism as long as I'm living in my purpose: destroying things that don't make this world better than I found it. That's my job...That's Kali's job as well. I have been through the fire, done the work necessary to expand, heal, realize my gifts and worth so that no one will ever treat me in a way that is less than I deserve. I am a child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made and I finally believe that. Kali gave me the courage to confront those truths.
Kali gave the courage to hear when people were telling me I was being destructive so I could stop and assess whether the havoc I was wrecking was sourced from the good or from darkness.
Folks who are in doubt about their worth will always feel threatened when you've done your personal work. Part of your purpose, your SoulSong is to hold yourself to a set of healthy standards while holding others accountable for behavior that is meant to silence or shut down your voice that is in the process of a radical healing. Radical self healing is what will ultimately heal the earth, so learn to:
Allow only abundance
Become a destroyer of those things that no longer serve
This are the things Kali has taught me to focus on in my personal work.
Ask yourself the questions each time you feel hurt or in doubt...begin to learn from the lessons.
That's how you begin Manifesting Life a MotherFucker the Life You Deserve
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is a Tony-winning producer/writer/actor & CEO of TheDreamUnLocked: Boutique Coaching for Actors, Writers & Dreamers