DREAMS are Life Lessons
Waiting to be Heard
This is the DreamingOutLoud Technique I talk about in my
Ted Talk: RewriteYourHistory
This morning I woke up with tears on my pillow, cheeks swollen & stained. and swollen cheeks stained with an ocean of tears. my cheeks were swollen and stained.
I sat down immediately to write my morning pages because
DREAMS hold the ANSWERS
to all the stuff your HEAD &
your HEART are STRUGGLING with
I was in this moment in The Color Purple where Shug confronts her Daddy in church
Shug has been holding onto the pain of her father's rejection of because she left the church to sing her LifeOutLoud
Shug realizes that what
she NEEDS is more important
than what he BELIEVES
She has an aha moment: the very thing her father disapproves of,
her singing secular music w/the rhythms of the church in the groove line, is the very thing that has kept her connected to the church
She loves the music that
brought her close to God
to her community
to her peoples’ epic struggle
She’s found a way for that LOVE
to help her make a living
DOING what she LOVES
A rare FEAR for anybody, but certainly for a black woman in 1930's #JimCrowAmerica
And for this LOVE,
her father sets her aside.
Her journey into the world of secular music leads her to
who LOVES her
(just like her father....see how we repeat the same emotional themes or chords?)
In this moment she realizes that:
until, she HEALS the old wound with the 1st man who could not
find it in his heart to LOVE her UNCONDITIONALLY, that she would be doomed to CHOOSING the same man over & over again.
It took a lot of courage for her to walk from that juke joint to her Daddy's church singing
"God is trying to tell you something" from the bottom of her feet CONJURING
a LOVE of SELF
she’d never had before
She forced him to SEE her;
he may not like LIKE
what she does for a living,
but that did not give him the
RIGHT to HOLD
her LOVE HOSTAGE
She risked rejection again, but this time in front of a church full of people & juke joint patrons who would then have the power to throw her failure in her face if he did not accept her
But her need to HEAL
was greater than her FEAR
SHE had to find a way
to tell him she LOVED him,
to EMBRACE him despite
What a MONUMENTALLY BRAVE
act of VULNERABILITY
When I first saw this film,
I wept in that theatre.
I was a kid in college 3000 miles away from a mother who had rejected me for 15 years for the same exact reasons
(fucking religion ...but i digress)
Because I chose not to practice the religion she raised me in, I was excommunicated from her life until I would give in and "come to my senses and come back to the church."
What's funny is that the very thing that people hold onto & use as an excuse to control & punish others, is the very thing that is supposed to be about "unconditional love"
The Bible, the Koran are filled with history, human error, frailty, stories of mercy & kindness, stories of humans at their best, at their worst exist to teach us not to repeat the same mistakes but to rise above them.
And the first rule is to LOVE
WITHOUT without LIMITS
RULES or CONDITIONS
And oddly enough,
it's the first lesson we all abandon
in our pursuit of religion
The fundamental tenet that holds it all together:
Instead, what we attach to these lessons are the things that trigger our fears and need for control in an unpredictable world.
I find it odd that the places we go to find compassion, comfort & hope are the places where our biggest takeaway is to find new reasons to justify hurting each other.
Places where we find a way to be right & to get rewarded for being right by making someone else wrong.
books of WISDOM
are supposed to
make us BIGGER
If I were you
I would say yes
Speak to me
Oh, Speak, Lord
Won't you speak to me
I was so blind, I was so lost
until you spoke to me
Oh, speak, Lord
And hear my mind
Oh, with your word
heal my soul
Can't sleep at night
& you wonder why
Maybe God is trying
to tell you something
Crying all night long
something’s gone wrong
Maybe God is trying to tell you something
The Universe is Trying to Tell You Something, Why are you ignoring her?
She’s talking to you in your dreams.
That’s what DreamingOutLoud is all about
Start with Step 1: #TheMorningPages
Write down your dreams
let them fall out of your mouth
onto the page
That’s a powerful CONJURING
are LIFE’s FUEL
When you run out of DREAMS
you run out of gas
no small stories,
just what makes your heart sing?
That’s life's heartbeat
struggling to be SEEN
To be HEARD
To be CELEBRATED
is a Tony-winning producer/writer/actor & CEO of TheDreamUnLocked: Boutique Coaching for Actors, Writers & Dreamers