“When u do (insert action), I feel (insert feeling).” These are the only lines u have in this short story called: How to Move from FEAR to F🌀CK It When Setting Boundaries Scares the BeJesus Out of U RULES FOR ENGAGEMENT 🌀Don’t try to get anything from someone, just set a limit to the discomfort by stating ur feelings & leaving the scene of discomfort 🌀Don't Try to Fix Someone Else's Behavior as a Way to Avoid Taking Care of UrSelf 🌀Take care of u every single time someone crosses a boundary uv set & made u feel uncomfortable. “How to Deal with the Monologue of the 1000 Tiny Cuts” U know this works when u try it w/ur Nana or ur mother each time they begin one of the "Monologues of 1000 Tiny Cuts:" “ “Even with the xtra weight, u look radiant...” STOP This cutting is a reflection of them, not u & guess what? u can’t fix it, but u can let them know how it feels when they hand u their gift of self-contempt “I've asked you to stop couching criticism in a compliment. It feels passive aggressive & hostile, so I'm leaving now. “ (Exit, Stage Left) & then limit ur interactions w/them to 10 mins & exit the scene each time they go back to this behavior but let them know kindly why ur leaving each & every time NO FURTHER EXPLANATION. YOUR SELF-CARE IS NOT NEGOTIABLE Bec u see this isn't abt them or a negotiation around how u want to be treated This is abt how u want to feel, how u care for ur well-being & how u want to live ur life & as long as your core values are up for negotiation, u will always be miserable, unfulfilled & repeating the brokenness of the people who made u. OUCH yeah, i know but these are the choices esp for mid-life geniuses w/ more years behind u than in front of u this aint no rehearsal make it count SignUp for the 14 Day How to Move From FEAR to F*CK It Live minicourse 🌀link in bio @AprilYvetteThompson
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