I have seen many, many partners and friends come back together after a relationship’s end.
I am a big supporter of past connections coming back together, but only when there has been some shift in awareness or a genuine willingness to approach things differently.
Hope alone is rarely ever enough.
Hope is a wish but it doesn’t necessarily come with an action - or a deep insight change.
Time apart can certainly do wonders for some people - especially if those people are actively working on expanding their relational self-awareness during the time spent apart.
Time apart can be valuable when people are not *just* working on healing themselves, but are genuinely trying to understand how they have been showing up relationally.
Cultivating awareness in this area can create potential for deep relationship change.
This isn’t meant to mean completely morphing yourself in order to maintain a connection with someone, but rather developing a healthy awareness that your choices and your behavior will naturally have impact on your loved ones.
So, here are some prompts that might help you explore the possibility of a re-connection:
What am I/we going to do things differently this time around?
What conversation/s need to be had to assess growth?
What was perhaps missing in the past that needs to be highlighted moving forward?
What insights have been cultivated during the time spent apart?
What boundaries or agreements need to be in place to better protect the relationship?
How can we each better own the ways we may hurt each other moving forward?
How can we better repair things the next time we hurt one another?
What past hurts may still need to be acknowledged? Might getting professional support be necessary to work on repairing those hurts?
How might I/we know that trying again is not the expansive and nourishing choice? How might we part ways with kindness and respect?
What else has helped you assess coming back together with someone?
is a Tony-winning producer/writer/actor & CEO of TheDreamUnLocked: Boutique Coaching for Actors, Writers & Dreamers