Returning Limiting Beliefs to the Source is an Act of Self-Love

Just STOP: This post is not abt a failure to have self-love. There are 1000s of married people who have no self-love. This post is abt those of us who have finally learned we have a right to long for partnership so don’t make this abt a lack of self-love...thas lame shaming.. ​

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after uve spent years doing all this internal work & ur still longing for a partner; then someone drops this. ⁣
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it leaves u feeling defeated or like that friend has just run out constructive suggestions for u & is tired of hearing u talking abt something they seemed to have solved⁣
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i felt these things & then when I got engaged, friends/family said:

“Is this a joke?”
Or why would you do that, I thought you gave up on that.. Oh she just can’t keep a man or Oh she just moving to Morocco to get a Moroccan man (children only repeat the hurtful shit their parents say and feel)...”
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No, I didnt give up, I just stopped discussing my deepest hopes, wishes & dreams w/people who acted like it was my fault for being single. ⁣ They had no idea how deep a pain I was in...none...they just didnt want to be bothered. How I grew up never expecting to be loved by anyone...they have no idea what that feels like
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loved ones who simply didnt want to hear about it as if my ‘failure’ had to do with something being wrong with me. That’s when I realized just bec ur a “loved one” doesn’t mean ur for me bec I’m loving a love that’s not being returned...⁣
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Yeah, I felt that...I felt all the people who gave up on me...and I had to let them go...it was hard...but when I did...my guy showed up w/out me having to do a thing.⁣
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Those folks who truly did not believe in me were part of the dead weight I was carrying...how they felt about me was in odds with the truth of who I am. ⁣
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I see them & all their coded comments & think wow...how far I’ve come to be able to let go of people i love who were not vested in my greatest good...⁣
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so if u feel distant from me...⁣
know this one’s for u...⁣
i see u...and ur wrong...

what would my life look like if i was only surrounded by people who wanted my highest good?
I’m about to find out...

I say these truths bec as long as i don’t say them, i hold onto somebody’s else idea of what i deserve....i’m handing them back those limiting beliefs...tbey’re not mine to carry, it’s theirs....i also believe that people who claim to love u need to be made aware of things that feel like they are expressing a kind of contempt for u...

what u meant is irrelevant especially when the result was a deep telling of ur true feelings about someone...in that contempt, i hear all the toxic shit i said & thought about myself that came out in therapy...and i realize these people’s ideas about me being too much weren’t the truth...i had to spend years undoing the shit they laid at my feet...


remember, people who self-destructed and had to rebuild themselves bit by broken bit are empaths capable of feeling the things you don’t say but believe deeply...


​i feel every fissure on the soul