This instantly raises your 'degree of difficulty'. Its extremely attractive for a man to meet a woman who has set her standards, is able to communicate her needs clearly and keeps her focus on herself WITHOUT getting all hooked up on some one without a clear commitment. He will instantly know your vibe has shifted and that you will not stick around for too long if your needs are not being met. Its what Rori Raye calls the AUCTION EFFECT. The more the bidders the higher the price. He will know he has to man up and raise his level of effort to get you and keep you around! aha!
Doesn't that sound marvelous? Well, you can't really fake it.
It is not the same as playing a game or playing hard to get. If you are secretly sick in your stomach, thinking of him all day, and you secretly cancel all your plans each time he whimsically asks you out on a date last minute, he will know. Don't be fooled.
It takes practice to take your focus of him and put it on you. It has a scientific explanation for it. Its called: oxytocin. Once we have been physical (specially with penetration) we have this 'bonding hormone' rushing through our bodies and no matter how he does not fulfill our needs or how he behaves, we will have to fight this battle to not to feel bonded to him. That's why being sexual in an early stage of the relationship is dangerous. We often loose our focus and become brain fogged.
Last but not least: this tool of circular dating is closely related to our LEANING BACK tool, as discussed in my blog from yesterday. When you focus yourself on YOU and you date other men, you are practicing leaning back. You are pulling that rubber band all the way back and the tension (read: ATTRACTION) is instantly increased!
--- Alexandra Indaco-Heredia, The Goddess Circle
is a Tony-winning producer/writer/actor & CEO of TheDreamUnLocked: Boutique Coaching for Actors, Writers & Dreamers