Self-Love is a lot more than spa treatments, ice cream, wine and chocolate (did i just say that).
It's about a shift in thinking that requires bravery. It's the stuff you're not doing because you're so afraid of not winning the approval of others.
Why is this dangerous? Why do you think people's bodies give out before retirement and all sorts of preventable ailments start kicking your butt midlife?
Midlife should be the beginning of living beautifully without the cares of the world...but if you fail to make that leap...your body does it for you...she stops serving you because you stopped serving her a long time ago....
Choosing yourself first means putting your health, wellbeing and happiness above other people, jobs, obligations, goals, or commitments.
Choosing yourself first means that you have to REALLY get to know yourself.
Choosing yourself first means that you have to learn to say NO.
NO to anything that does not align with you.
YOU NEED TO BE YOUR FIRST PRIORITY OR YOU WILL NOT MAKE CHOICES IN YOUR BEST INTEREST.
You will seek outside validation.
You will allow others to choose pivotal life decisions for you (marriage, divorce, having kids, debt/savings, etc). You will aim to make others happy to seek fulfillment.
You will stick around an unhealthy situation long enough for it to be devastating.
You will push off your goals for a “better time”. You will hesitate on that opportunity that could change your life.
You will doubt your own capabilities and stay stuck.
You will be scared to make a mistake.
You will be scared to lose friends or family.
But the truth is, BY NOT CHOOSING YOURSELF FIRST, you are harming all of those around you.
By not being in your FULL POWER.
You can’t help your friend because you are so drained from work.
You can’t purchase medication because you are so lost in DEBT.
You can’t be yourself because you want to be approved by all of those around you.
This will leave you…
Feeling alone and misunderstood.
SO HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOURSELF FIRST?
By asking a few simple questions BEFORE making a decision.
Will this decision help me towards my goals?
Will this decision make me happy?
Will this decision allow me to be my authentic self?
Will this decision give me more energy now AND in the long term?
Will this decision allow me to be in a better, more stable place?
If you said YES to ALL OF THE ABOVE, then know this:
BEING IN A STABLE, SAFE, HAPPY, PRODUCTIVE, ENERGIZED STATE will allow you to HELP MORE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.
As they say in airplanes. PUT ON YOUR OXYGEN MASK FIRST BEFORE HELPING THE OTHERS AROUND YOU.
Doing Self Discovery and Self Development IS that OXYGEN MASK.
CHOOSE YOURSELF FIRST.
is a Tony-winning producer/writer/actor & CEO of TheDreamUnLocked: Boutique Coaching for Actors, Writers & Dreamers